Therapy. Counseling. Prescriptions. Where do you turn when you’ve done it all and you’re still no better than when you started?
by EVAN OWENS
Talk of mental health surrounds us. We see it on TV, in the newspaper, and on social media. By 2018, the mental health care industry will have crested $148 billion and that number continues to grow year over year. 1
According to the Anxiety Center, nearly one-third of the North American population is experiencing anxiety unwellness issues and nearly 43% of the American population takes mood-altering drugs daily. 2
Needless to say, our nation is reaching a breaking point when it comes to our mental health. We aren’t okay. We aren’t well. So if you are feeling alone and feeling like you aren’t handling this difficult season well enough, think again. You are probably coping just about as well as the rest of us. And if you’re like me, you believe you should be handling things better.
Perhaps you’ve tried seeking professional help from counselors, completed EMDR, prolonged exposure therapy, or are taking the medications you’ve been prescribed. In the big-business world of mood-altering medication, virtually every problem or bit of unrest we have can now be classified as a sort of mental issue.
And while I am a big proponent of the discipline and practice of mental health care and those that offer this service including doctors, clinicians and therapists, I also believe that our society has placed too great a focus solely on mental health.
So what do we do when mental health and medication aren’t enough?
Over the past 10 years, there has been a growing demand for spiritual well-being alongside our mental health. On some level, we are starting to realize (again) that taking care of our soul is a vital part of our overall well-being.
Spirituality Without Specificity
I spend much of my time around military installations, and in this arena, there is widespread discussion of spirituality among military medical communities. Rather than adopting a specific “religion,” most medical establishments have adopted what they consider to be a secularized version of spiritual well being, including such practices as mindfulness, yoga, meditation and reiki.
I believe the attraction to these spiritual practices is primarily derived from the sense that within them, there is no specificity of God. The “god” discussed is a far off, untouchable, unreachable, uninterested deity. We find spiritual peace within ourselves and the deity, if mentioned at all, requires or requests nothing of us.
Let me state clearly that I am a Christian, so the lens through which I view the health of a soul is informed by that belief system. And I’m not suggesting that these practices don’t improve health. Perhaps they have improved the lives of some of you who are reading this post.
However, I think we are missing out on a much more impactful opportunity.
If mankind is composed of mind, body and soul, then the question must be asked… who gave us a soul?
If God, then who better to mend a wounded soul?
I believe the generic brand of spiritual healing is robbing us of a genuine connectedness with the original manufacturer of our souls. Attempting to heal a soul without engaging in an honest dialogue about our spiritual identity and eternal God-given value is bypassing a deeper healing opportunity.
If you have tried everything and are still searching for healing, perhaps it is this very conversation that needs to occur. Perhaps your soul can only be mended by the One who created you and gave you that unique soul.
Roots and Fruits
Many of my friends who work as counselors or social workers are overwhelmed. They are asked to see too many clients each day and are not give enough time to effectively dig into everything they’d like to explore. This combined with a culture of patients that expect immediate results has led to a prescription medication crisis.
Our medical system focuses on symptom abatement far more than actual health. We focus on the fruit of the tree rather than the roots. We settle for a quick harvest of decent fruit instead of doing the hard work and digging into the root system to ensure plentiful harvests are produced year after year.
This quick-fix mindset leaves many of us as soul-scarred individuals playing an endless game of “whack-a-mole” as we try to smash the latest symptoms to emerge in our lives only to find another one has popped up elsewhere.
What if many of the symptoms we are experiencing are actually fueled by a deeper root issue? Imagine that symptoms are fruit on a tree. Is it possible that there are damaged or under-developed roots that are sustaining those harmful symptoms?
Let me give you an example. I might show the symptom of anger, but actually, the root issue is an inability or unwillingness to forgive myself and others. Or I might present the symptom of anxiety, when in fact the root issue is a misplaced or uncertain identity.
Perhaps the game of “symptom whack-a-mole” is actually part of what keeps our trees unhealthy. When our focus remains on removing the symptom, the symptom is all we think about. It grows as it takes on new life and keeps us totally consumed.
My faith tells me that I can live a life full of purpose, joy and fulfillment in spite of my symptoms. What if we don’t have to wait until our symptoms are gone to rediscover joy and meaning? What if in fact, it is through our symptoms and suffering that our true purpose is revealed?
The Challenge of Suicide
Talk of suicide hovers over hurting military families like a dark cloud. One of my closest friends was injured by an IED explosion in Afghanistan while serving in the US Army. He suffered a myriad of wounds including a traumatic brain injury, broken neck and busted leg. Upon returning home, he was assigned to the warrior transition unit and began his new full time job.
This new job was described to him like this:
“Your full time job is to heal.”
What did that look like? Well, for him, it meant between three and six medical appointments each day focusing on all the things that were “wrong” with him as well as living in a barracks with many other wounded and hurting people. Needless to say, his morale didn’t improve and he didn’t get better. In fact, he got worse. Much worse.
After about a year, he reached a point of desperation. He had taken the medications he was prescribed, he had gone to all the therapy appointments, and yet everything seemed to be falling apart at a faster rate than when he began. Feeling utterly hopeless, he attempted suicide.
His attempt failed, thank God, but afterward, it was he who first asked me the question I pose to you today: “What happens when mental health and medication aren’t enough?”
This question haunts me. Because it is the very situation too many military families are facing right now. And sadly, the answer isn’t cut and dry. But I do know this:
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For our light and temporary affliction is producing for us an eternal glory that far outweighs our troubles. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
What is unseen is eternal. That is our soul. Our soul is eternal. So while my body is wasting away, my soul is being renewed daily. So when thoughts of suicide attack my mind, I remember that my soul is as strong as ever and that is the part of me that keeps fighting.
I wish I could tell every hurting family that their pain has a purpose. While God may not have caused the pain, he’ll use it as part of His incredible story of redemption and restoration.
When mental health care and medication aren’t enough, don’t lose hope. Don’t quit on your soul, because it won’t quit on you.
2 Corinthians 4: 7-9
Now we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this surpassingly great power is from God and not from us. We are pressed on all sides, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.
EVAN OWENS is the Executive Director of REBOOT Recovery and co-founder of REBOOT Combat Recovery and REBOOT First Responders.